Usually when we dislike someone, we tend to move away or avoid them if possible. This is just simple human nature. Logically, who wants to be around someone who disagree with everything we do? So we keep the best of friends and ignore the one who gives us a hard time.
But you know what? I say keep them around, don't avoid from them completely. Simply because they usually question about our personality, perception, interest and etc in which we do not normally do to ourselves. For an example, I am a theist wherelse I have a few friends who are atheist. However there is this one particular friend of mine who condemns everything my belief teaches. Then what should I do? Social norm will tell us no point having him as a friend since he is not compatible with us.
Though there is no doubt some of the comments were offensive for myself, but that doesn't give me a reason to end my friendship with him. Why? This is because he ask questions in which me and possible other theist would not ask. Simply because those were the subjects which are extraordinary and unbelievable which science can't prove. Therefore, his criticism actually provide an opportunity for theist like me to think much more deeply. Is there any explanation? Are the text taken to literally? With this, what may be offensive can be very constructive. If we are afraid of asking the questions, why not let them ask the questions instead?
Another aspect, they can help to achieve your goal better. As we plan for a function, commitment and etc. usually we have a rough idea of the challenges and obstacles that would arise in the future. But ourselves can only think so much. If we were to expose our whatever resolution or plan to both our friends and enemies, usually the enemy has tons of things to say on why we would not achieve it. Indirectly, they are pointing out all the other possible challenges or trouble we would be facing thus helping us to develop a better plan.
All in all, you may be surprise that sometimes the reason to your success comes not from your friends, but your enemies.
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